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You Can’t Hate Something You Want to Heal

Our bodies are fascinating things. When we get injured and blood is pouring from our skin, our body knows exactly how to respond – right away the wound actively begins healing. Blood vessels leading to the wound tighten to reduce the flow of blood to the injured area, platelets rush to the scene, clumping to each other and adhering to the sides of the torn blood vessel, making a plug – and that’s just the start.

Transforming Our Bodies

The body is magnificent in its natural healing process. We respond by nurturing, loving and taking care of the wound so we can speed up the healing process. To transform the skin into its natural state of being, we are connected with it; we do not fight the healing process. We trust it.

Why, then, do we adapt a different approach when we want to transform our bodies? When we know that we are holding onto more weight that what is comfortable? We take a different approach. We try and shame-our-way-thin. This way of transforming is all fear based; we use fear, doubt and hatred to encourage the process of physical change. This process is not only extremely difficult, it isn’t sustainable. It’s impossible to heal something you hate.

Your body simply responds to the demands of the mind. The extra weight on the body is a product of overeating and using food for reasons other than health, hunger and fuel. The physical weight on the body is representation of the emotional weight we are carrying. More often than not, the weight on the body was created from a place of fear, which means it’s impossible to rid the weight using the very thing that created it: fear.

It’s in this conversation I get the biggest push back from the clients I work with. They fear that, if they choose to love their bodies, they will stay complacent and not want to release the weight that isn’t serving them. This simply isn’t true. In fact, it’s completely the opposite of how the body works.

Embracing Connection and Communication

When we choose to love our bodies, we are able to communicate with them. Let me explain…

Hate, disconnection and fear block the communication channel from mind and body, head and heart – we aren’t able to listen to what our bodies need because we are too busy hating them and trying to fix them. Communication happens when we have connection, and connection can only happen through the process of love and acceptance – not fear and hate.

When mind, body and soul are in harmony, they have the same goal. They all want to work in perfect unison together, each system feeding the other information in order to support the whole. Think of it as a Venn diagram: the two outer circles are mind and body, intersecting and meeting in the middle, which is the center point of the soul. Communication and connection within this triad is the access point to freedom and liberation from the struggle with food and body. It’s essential we love the wounded parts, so we give them a chance to heal. We must love the extra weight, not only the physical weight, but the emotional weight as well. The more we hate it, the more momentum it is given, which only distances us from achieving a harmonious relationship.

It’s important to ask your body, ‘What do you need right now?’ When we can turn our attention inwards and love our inner wounds, they heal. When we can include them and transcend in our growth, everything works with one another – not against.

It’s time to get curious and love the parts of you that you’ve previously shamed and denied. Then, and only then, will you experience true healing.



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